Compliments and the need for appreciation: why do we need them?
I read a fellow bloggers story today on how she started her blogging journey. Among other things , it started out of the need of appreciation and approval. Whatever she wrote resonated so much with me. Don’t we all strive on this basic human need for appreciation and approval? .
Be it at work or when in a relationship, it makes such a difference when our tiniest of efforts are appreciated. The first thing I expect my husband to say, after he takes a bite of something I have cooked, is, how’s it? Or honestly, how good is it 😃
Appreciation satisfies a major part of our tiny little egos. That is probably the reason why we share our stories and pictures on social media.. to be appreciated and liked by people around us. As superficial as it may sound, it does make us happy to be appreciated.
There’s nothing wrong in it unless we keep seeking approval from everyone else but us. I think that is the biggest form of appreciation and beats everything else.
Also, if we seek approval from others, doesn’t it mean that we need to appreciate them too?
Margaret Manning says “Compliments don’t just make others feel great. They also enhance our own self-confidence. Giving a genuine compliment requires us to look for the good in others. In doing so, we also start to see the good in ourselves. We realize that we are all on the same journey together and that each of us has value to share with the world. Seeing the good in others has another powerful benefit. By appreciating and respecting others, we become a magnet for their reciprocated love.”
Our Co workers or spouses may be too busy with their own little egos to feel the need to appreciate us. So, do me a favor today. Show appreciation and praise for something or anything your partner/ coworker/ relative/ friend does for you so that they know. Genuinely seek for the good in them beyond the surface. Who knows, what you get back in return?! 😉